No one can proclaim that they are of 100% nice and good as basically, the term “nice guy” is very ambiguous. Pick any girl off the streets and question them on the definition of nice guy and most probably you will end up with lots of different kinds of answers. But one thing does not change and that is “nice guys” are relatively more likely to lose out to the jerks or “bad guys” in dating. It is often said that in the dating world, “nice guys” finish last and it is true indeed. With a tendency to be overly polite or friendly, the do it to the extent where it makes girls feel uncomfortable and that is why it is so bad.

Below are just some of the many reasons why squeaky clean guys lose out to jerks.

1. Nice guys are not tough enough

Woman love intimacy as much as most guys do and the reason why nice guys fail in this is because they are afraid to make the first physical move, in fear of offending the women. On the contrary, women WANT the men to be in control. Your ability of being able to lead her is her gauge to whether you can be man enough for her. When you start advancing towards her shows that you are confident and are ready for a relationship; so start changing your thinking about being physical with women. It can really help you to improve your relationship.

2. Nice guys are overly emotional and insecure

The supposedly “nice” guys are more prone to such feelings, and without knowing it, they actually are ruining their chances of attracting the girls they like. Nice guys often treat their other half too well and would do almost anything to keep her once he found the one that he likes. In actual fact, the one who is suppose to be emotionally attached should be the girl to you and not the other way around. Also remember that when she is attracted to you, learn not to be overly intruding in her personal space. Give her some room instead of stalking her insistently. The insecurity that you have irritates her and eventually she might even dump you over it.

3. Nice guys are too shy

As they live up to their “nice” nature, nice guys often are afraid to approach their mate regarding sexual interest issues. This is because they are afraid of offending their other half and also partly they are afraid of rejection and ashamed of bringing up such a topic. The following may shock you, but women do not really like jerks more than nice guys, but just that jerks are not afraid to reveal their sexuality or sexual interest in women. By sticking to the norm, you actually portray yourself as dull and uninteresting that bores girls most of the time. Keep your sexuality pumped up and you will have a better time attracting the girl of your dreams.

4. Nice guys are predictable

Nothing special is done on dates, its always the standard, flowers with dinner at a nice restaurant. These common dating practices are not too bad by themselves, but if done too many times, it makes formality become mundane. Jerks or also known as the “bad” guys are very creative in their ideas and dates. No matter how corny and dumb their ideas may be, it actually brings out their uniqueness and that is what attracts the ladies. Women want to feel special and following what everyone does would only make them feel common.

Believe me when I say that even innocent college girls would prefer to date someone who is a tad wilder than the high school “nice” guy. So beware, next time someone tells you that you are a nice guy, it may be time for an attitude check.

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